Today, we got into the groups of 4 and shared our memories of "conflict."
Soon after starting our talk, I remembered one of my worst example of conflict......
Well, when I was in high school, I belonged to the basketball team, and human relationship there was getting worse and worse as time went on.
When we had a conflict, we gathered in one place and discussedeach other to solve it.
But then, most of the members of the team advocated or talked too much of what they wanted to say.
And they didn't really listen to what others say. So the problem has never been solved.
What's worse, the basketball is a team sport. Though we made efforts not to bring any private problems to the court, it was too difficult not to care about it. During the practice, we always had dark atmosphere. We had never won a formal game.
One team member, who didn't talk a lot in discussion soon quitted the team.
I wanted to quit, too, but I really wanted to be in the team until the season we retired, just because I wanted the feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment, when retiring.
But I only felt sad when we retired.
Having experienced this, I learned it is significantly important, may be more than anything, to be patient and listen to what others say. I wonder, what would each team members and the team itself have been if all of us have read "Leading at the Edge" and taken Ken's class......